rarabro:

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rarabro:

I saw that vid of Gwendoline Christie lowkey coming out as bi and I just

I AM LOSING MT SHIT @ THIS LIKE SHE REALLY CAME OUT @ THE EXPENSE OF A GAY JOKE I LOVE HER

@lesbianspacepilot https://youtu.be/lIv6y6cigJE ITS IN THE FIRST 25 SECONDS

theunitofcaring:

A murderer doing good things won’t bring their victims back to life. 

A murderer doing good things still means that good things happen. If a murderer tutors a fellow prisoner in reading and writing, then a person learns to read and write, and has access to more ideas and more experiences and more ways of expressing them. If a murderer runs a great DnD game and everyone sitting around the table has a good time, then people had happy experiences, and people having happy experiences that don’t harm others just, straightforwardly, is a good thing. Nothing a murderer can do will make the world okay again, but nothing a murderer can do will make it bad for a person to thrive, or good for a person to suffer.

It’s not wrong to feel crushing guilt but it’s not right either, not unless it’s making the world better (and often people believe it is when it clearly isn’t). Guilt that drives you to become a better person, to change so that you couldn’t make the same mistakes again, can be healthy. Guilt that drives you to fix harms that you caused, when they’re fixable, can be healthy. Guilt can let you know when you’re not being your best self, and sometimes it’s worth listening to.

But it’s worth listening to because it can teach you to do better, not because it hurts to listen to. People hurting is actually bad. And eventually, you have learned everything that you can possibly learn from your past mistakes. Eventually, you get to a point where you will learn more, and grow more, as a person from doing new things than from living with overwhelming guilt over the old ones. And when you get to that point, you need some kind of tool to pry your brain loose of guilt and move forwards. I don’t think our society has a very good idea of what those tools are, right now. I think big parts of my community, of the social justice community especially, are actually totally disinterested in this. 

And so people suffer forever, and suffering is bad, and they fail to grow as people, and we need the people they have the potential to grow into. We need them at their fullest best selves to help us fix the world.

It sure doesn’t sound like guilt is making anything better for you right now. It sounds like guilt is standing between you and other things that’d help you grow. So – yeah, I think you should actually just forgive yourself. You believed awful things. You don’t anymore. You treated someone badly. Come up with a plan not to do it again. Think about what would have prevented you from having horrible fascist beliefs, and get it out there on the internet to keep someone else from falling into the same trap. 

And then, you know, buy malaria nets! Malaria nets are not less good at protecting children if you buy them instead of someone who has never done anything bad in their life! Don’t buy malaria nets as penance. Buy malaria nets because then children will fall asleep under malaria nets. Figure out what you care about and how to best achieve it, whatever it is, and do that. That’s the fundamental project of being human and everyone can do it, no matter what they were doing before it, and the good it does is just as good whoever the doer.

palmetttos:

Him: what you thinking about?

Me [vividly imagining a hypothetical high-budget, three-season Netflix series of Nora Sakavic’s All for the Game including its aesthetic, its cast, its soundtrack and its script] haha nothing